on Fish and Fishing

Many people go and see a therapist because they secretly – or not so secretly! – hope that that person will act the role of magician in their lives. Some therapists actively encourage this idea with their marketing and the kind of work that they do.
I’m going to stick my neck right out here – and say that they are not in the long run doing their clients any favours. We’ve all heard the saying - give a man a fish and he will eat for a day, but teach him to fish and he will eat for a lifetime.
Apply that to therapy and what do you get? If you take away someone’s presenting symptom, you’ve not really empowered them in any way. If you help them to take responsibility and become more knowledgeable about their underlying dynamics as well, they begin to transform their lives themselves.
And if you teach them some tools so they can help themselves in the future, and possibly others as well, you’ve created a wonderfully positive ripple effect.
Why so? Because we all have the potential to be therapists in each others lives, to empower each other. Simple tools like EFT are easy to learn and use and pass on to others. It isn’t always necessary to spend money seeing a therapist – you can help yourself too.
In fact I would actively encourage my clients to explore other avenues before they resort to a therapist – for example, there are some extremely good self-help books on the market which can help give you insight.
That means that often people may need only one or a few sessions to experience a real lasting transformation. Not merely a relief of a symptom that will most likely transform itself into another symptom.